Mirror, mirror on the wall…who’s the fairest of them all?
If you screamed “ME!” into your phone screen, then this might just be the quiz for you. Below, we’ll help you determine the size of your ego—whether it’s teeny tiny, medium, or totally gigantic. Using psychology (and some fun, made-up scenarios!), we’ll set you on a path of self-discovery. Finally, you’ll be able to answer the question: how big is my ego?
Questions Overview
- That doesn’t sound like me. I bet it was someone else—I’ll get to the bottom of this.
- Everyone makes mistakes! The best thing to do now is take responsibility.
- Oof, this is stressful. I really don’t want to acknowledge my mistake, so I won’t fess up.
- I’m mortified. Why do I always mess up? I’ll apologize profusely and pull an all-nighter to make up for it.
- Handle it myself. My biggest fear is having to admit my life isn’t perfect.
- I’ll reach out to the people who care about me. I know I’m resilient—I’ll get through this.
- I try not to show weakness around other people, but sometimes, I can’t help but break down.
- I won’t reach out to anyone. I’d hate to bug others with my silly issues.
- All the time. I’m the most interesting person I know.
- I prioritize my happiness, so I do think about myself, but I also make sure to be present for others.
- It’s probably about 50/50.
- I never think about myself.
- I’m way smarter than them. Why hasn’t my work seen my worth yet?
- That’s great. It’s so fun to be in a big, successful friend group (myself included).
- I’m happy for them, but I’m equally jealous.
- I’m so excited for them. But it does make me think: I wish I were more talented…
- I’m seething. They better prepare for war.
- I’ll double-check their source, but if they’re right, I’ll accept it happily.
- I might get a little annoyed, but it won’t ruin my day.
- I’m so embarrassed. I always mess this stuff up! I might even apologize for my inaccuracy…
- I’m angry. How can they expect to do better than me!?
- Well, I guess I’m not for everyone. I’ll find the right person soon.
- *Gulp.* I’m a little embarrassed. What will my friends say…
- No surprise. I wouldn’t choose me either. I wish I hadn’t bothered them in the first place…
- Yes! Whenever I’m watching a famous actor or singer, I always think to myself: I could do better than that…
- Maybe. I’m sure it’d get annoying, but it’d be fun to be appreciated for my skills.
- I think I would. Who wouldn’t enjoy all that praise and attention?
- Definitely not. I’d hate to have that many people know of me.
- People are jealous of me, so they try to drag me down. Sometimes it feels like the world is against me.
- I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I still have a lot to offer. My friends love me for who I am.
- People probably see me as a little above average. I’d love to become even more impressive someday!
- They probably think of my faults first. They probably associate me with low confidence, or maybe weakness.
- In this life, I care about wealth, status, and how others view me.
- I love myself, but I find that I’m happiest when I’m not 100% focused on myself.
- I wish I cared a little less about what other people thought of me.
- I wish I could fix the things that are wrong with me.
- Stay silent and think to myself: Jeez, I’m so glad I’m actually funny.
- Throw them a pity laugh and try to make it convincing.
- Tack a new joke onto theirs. That way, you get a laugh, and you help ease the awkwardness.
- Get a bad feeling and think: ''Is this what people feel like when I try to make jokes…?''
- I’m the most celebrated person in the world. Tons of people cheering my name and telling me I’m the best…
- I’ve achieved my goals, I’m surrounded by amazing friends and family, and I’m a confident, fulfilled person.
- I’d love to have a moment of success at work or in school—like, maybe I get recognized for a great idea.
- I’d love to wake up and feel like a brand-new person. I’d love to be stronger, smarter, you name it…
- My idea is definitely the best, so I’ll do my best to convince the others.
- The goal is to hear as many strong ideas as possible. I’ll put mine forward, then encourage others to do the same.
- I’d love to be recognized for contributing a couple of strong ideas! But otherwise, I’ll take a backseat.
- I just want to get through this. I hate being put on the spot. I feel like all my ideas are bad!
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Egos: What Causes Them? Are They Healthy?
What does it mean to have a “big ego”? In general, egotistical people believe that they’re exceptional. Their self-assessments go beyond confidence—they might feel like they’re of higher worth than other people, which can lead to apathy. These people might feel that their ideas are always the best, their skills are the sharpest, and everyone is obsessed with them. Someone with a big ego will probably feel threatened when others succeed, and if someone challenges them, they won’t take it likely.
What is narcissism? In most cases, a big ego is no big deal. Many egotistical people still feel a lot of empathy for other people. Sometimes, though, a big ego might actually fall into the realm of personality disorders. This would be narcissism, or narcissistic personality disorder. These people often feel a major lack of empathy, which can strain their ability to form close, healthy relationships.
What’s the difference between confidence and a big ego? Great question! Big egos usually lack healthy perspective. These people might have an inflated sense of self, viewing their skills and importance as greater than they actually are. Relatedly, they may not give others enough credit for what they bring to the table. Confidence is all about recognizing your worth—but without bringing anyone else down in the process. Confident people believe that everyone has something to offer, themselves included. So when a friend gets good news or a sibling gets a promotion, it doesn’t threaten their sense of self.
Tips for Improving Self-Confidence:
- Confront negative self-talk. You know that pesky voice in your head? The one that sometimes tells you you’re not worthy? Squash it! When you catch yourself thinking something that’s negative (and untrue) about yourself, change the narrative. Say you think: “I’m such a failure. Why can’t I do anything right?” Confront that thought: “I’ve done a ton of things right in my life. For instance, I’m a great friend!”
- Surround yourself with people who make you feel great. This one can be a game-changer. You know those people who leave you smiling all day long? Ask them to hang out more! Friends who love and admire us can be great reminders of our worth. They don’t have to say anything specific about you, you just get the feeling that you’re loved and appreciated in their presence.
- Try something that scares you. Our fears can sometimes leave us feeling less powerful, but they don’t have to! Pick something that’s always scared you—like working out in public—and give it a try. When you’re done, don’t stop there. Really linger on the enormity of what you’ve accomplished: this thing that’s scared you for so long…you’ve conquered it!
- Invest in your passions. When we genuinely love something, it can light up our hearts. Confidence isn’t all about being great at everything we try. Sometimes, it’s about giving ourselves the permission to truly enjoy our own lives. The more time you dedicate to activities you really love, the more confident and full you’ll feel.
- Journal about your values. Confidence might look a little different on everyone, because it’s all about feeling comfortable with yourself. Depending on your values and beliefs, this means that “confident” behaviors can differ from person to person. To discover what it means to you, start with some self-reflective writing. Do you want to be a loyal person? Would you like to be kind, polite, and empathetic? Maybe your goal is to become more hard-working and devoted. The choice is yours. And once you clarify your goals, they’ll become easier to achieve!
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