Have you been asking yourself lately if love is possible for you? You’re not alone. Nearly everyone wonders when and whether they’ll find love at some point in their lives—and though it can take longer for some people than it does for others, love might just find you someday! After all, love doesn't happen overnight—but it’s always well worth the wait.
Answer a few questions about your current dating habits and views on romance, and we’ll tell you if you’re destined to find love. Plus, we’ll give you expert-backed tips for finding love based on your answers!
Questions Overview
- I go on dates regularly because I think they’re fun!
- Never. It’s much easier just to avoid the dating scene.
- Rarely, but I wish I dated more. It’s just so nerve-wracking!
- Sometimes, but only when I’m really feeling it.
- Yes, but we broke up. I’m searching for love again!
- No, I never had the courage to ask someone out.
- No, I’ve always felt like nobody will love me.
- Yes, but nothing super meaningful or long-term.
- It was a mutual decision, but of course it was still tough.
- I haven’t had a real relationship yet.
- They cheated on me, and I had to end it.
- I just had to break things off—they were clingy!
- No, not really. I just go for it!
- Yes, all the time. I don’t like initiating conversations.
- Yes, because it feels pointless to even try.
- No, I’ve just never met someone I felt that compelled to talk to.
- Great! I’m happy with what I see.
- Fine, I guess. It’s just me, nothing special.
- Bad. I don’t like looking at myself.
- Good, although I can think of a few things I’d change…
- Balanced. I have a few close friends I spend plenty of time with.
- Very quiet. I prefer solitude to socializing any day.
- A little slow. I don’t socialize much, despite wanting to.
- Very busy. There are so many friends to see and so little time!
- I’m ready to commit to someone I love fully!
- I’d prefer to keep things casual for now, honestly.
- The idea of commitment scares me.
- I like the idea of commitment for the right person.
- Somewhere casual and inviting where we can comfortably chat for a while.
- Somewhere quick and cheap. It’s the first date; I don’t want to get too invested yet.
- I’d visit whatever kind of restaurant my date wanted to go to.
- Somewhere expensive and fancy, so my date will be impressed.
- No. I’m not in a rush, but I still want to find love someday!
- Not really. I don’t mind having lots of alone time.
- Yes, I do. It’s worrying me that I haven’t found love yet.
- Maybe, but so far, I’ve found dating to be pretty unsatisfying.
- I try to learn from the experience and move on from it.
- It makes me want to avoid future situations where I could be rejected.
- It hurts deeply and makes me feel worse about myself.
- It hurts, but I try to shrug it off. It’s just part of life, right?
- Yes, of course—don’t we all?
- I’m not sure—I feel like I haven’t earned it.
- No, not really. I’m just not sure if I’m relationship material.
- Yes, I think so, but I haven’t met anyone who deserves me!
- Love is something special you build over time.
- Finding love makes me nervous, even though I want to have it.
- I’m skeptical about love, but I hope it’s real.
- Love is something that just happens. When you know, you know!
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Tips for Finding Love
Move on from past relationships before starting new ones. It’s hard to be emotionally available in a new relationship when you still feel attached to a past partner. You may struggle to fully trust your new love interest, for example, or feel fully present when you’re together—and that’s not fair to you or the person you’re currently with. Making an effort to move on and start fresh is the kindest thing you can do for yourself, and it ensures you’re in the right headspace to find a truly loving relationship.
Not sure how to move on? Take some time after your last relationship to focus on yourself and release all the emotions you might be feeling in a healthy way.
For example, it might help to go no-contact for a while and have a clean break—which means dropping all communication with your ex, unfollowing them on social media, and even deleting old photos (or at least storing them somewhere you won’t see them) until you’ve moved on.
Consider different ways to vent your emotions, too. You could write your ex a letter (without sending it) or start a daily journal and use it to process how you’re feeling each day. You could also use creative outlets to engage your mind—like drawing, knitting, or baking.
Finally, take care of your mental and physical health as you heal from your breakup. Do plenty of physical activities (from going on walks to biking) and eat a healthy, balanced diet. Be sure to socialize, too—it’s important to remember that you’re not alone in the wake of a breakup. Spend time with friends, talk to them about how you’re feeling, and save the singles’ events for when you’re feeling more emotionally prepared!
Be realistic about the dating process. Make sure you know what you really need (and what qualities you value most in a partner) before getting back on the dating scene. There’s a big difference between needing a partner to have certain qualities and wanting them to have certain qualities, and it’s important to recognize that before you start looking for love. Everyone should have standards—after all, the goal is to find love with someone compatible and will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. However, having an ultra-specific idea of what your partner should be can actually keep you from great romantic opportunities—which, in turn, makes the dating process feel super frustrating.
For example, you might want a partner to be a particular height or have a specific job, eye color, or hair color—but ultimately, those qualities probably aren’t worth limiting your choices over. After all, if you thought you wanted to date a lawyer and then met a web developer with compatible values and personality traits, wouldn’t it be worth getting to know them anyway?
When finding a partner, “needs” are things you can’t compromise on—typically, the things that matter most to you, like your values and life goals. Ultimately, one of the most critical parts of finding a partner is ensuring you’re with someone whose values are compatible with yours. To that end, it often takes time to get to know someone and learn about their values—so try not to judge potential love interests based on first impressions alone!
Focus on having fun, first and foremost. If you’re a single person looking for love, don’t worry about hitting up every singles’ event in town or choosing the “right” dating app; just keep putting yourself out there while doing activities you genuinely like, and you’re sure to meet someone (or multiple someones) in time.
For example, you might think singles’ events (like mixers or speed dating) are fun—but if you don’t, that’s okay too. Instead, join a club or team (like a local hiking group or dance team). You could also take a class that sounds interesting to you regardless (like a pottery class at the local art center, or an extension course at a nearby community college). In short, participate in groups and activities you’d consider doing anyway, even if you weren’t looking for love—because you might just meet someone who shares your interests!
Express curiosity and get to know your love interests. Your goal is to find love and see if the person you’re dating is truly a great match—so focus on making an authentic connection with them. It can be tough to put yourself out there and engage with someone you think you might like, but it’s always worth trying. To start, try to learn more about your date, their life, and any details they’re willing to share. Be curious and ask them questions; it shows you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them!
Then, pay attention to your date’s answers. Being a good listener is the best way to get to know them—and, once again, show them that you’re interested and engaged. Listening is also a great way to keep your mind occupied if you’re feeling a little nervous; when you’re focused on your date, you’re less likely to get caught up in your head worrying about what might happen.
Finally, if you’re invested in the relationship, clarify that to the person you’re dating! Investing time into the relationship is the best way to show someone you’re serious. You don’t need to spend every minute together, of course; just find fun activities the two of you can enjoy and ask your date to spend that time with you. That way, they’ll know you’re putting time and energy into nurturing (and maintaining) the relationship.
Be your genuine self. It might be tough to let a potential love interest see the real you, especially if there are aspects of your appearance or personality that you feel insecure about. However, you deserve to be loved for exactly the person you are—and if you feel like you can’t be yourself with the person you’re dating, they might not be the right match for you anyway.
It’s okay if you’re not ready to spill your life story right away, but if you’re invested in the relationship, let your love interest get to know you little by little. Be honest about who you are and your hopes, dreams, likes, dislikes, and ambitions. If your love interest is someone who embraces everything you tell them, making you feel accepted and supported, then that’s someone you could very well find love with!
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